For you, O God, have tested us; you have tried us as silver is tried. Psalm 66:10.
Often in life the various trials we are called to face, whatever they may be can be faced rightly or wrongly. No one loves these times of testing and are often so glad when the burdensome trial is lifted. But we can look upon the trials of life impatiently and see them as something we would be far better off without. Even as believers we can view them as nothing more than blatant interferences in ‘God’s plan for your life.’ Is that how you see the difficulties, God has brought into your life?
Or - you can see them as the tools God uses to bring about your sanctification for His glorious purposes.
You can approach them, (though painful and heavy) with understanding that God who knows you intimately, uses these ‘crosses’ to bring about exactly what you need for your eternal joy and His glory.
I like what J.C Ryle says on this matter:
There is nothing which shows our ignorance so much as our impatience under trouble. We forget that every cross is a message from God, and intended to do us good in the end. Trials are intended to make us think – to wean us from the world, to send us to the Bible, to drive us to our knees. Health is a good thing; but sickness is far better, if it leads us to God. Prosperity is a great mercy, but adversity is a greater one, if it brings us to Christ. Anything, anything is better than living in carelessness, and dying in sin.